When boys become girls' bestfriends

When boys become girls' bestfriends
By Pamela Angela Salomon Pastor
Inquirer News Service

CONTRARY to the popular belief that men cannot have purely platonic
relationships with women, today more and more females have found best
friends in their male counterparts.

We all know that women outnumber men. So why can't women stick to
tradition and just giggle with their girlfriends? Let me tell you why:

While most guys are terrible at being good boyfriends, they can
actually be great friends. Without the stress of jealousy,
commitment, looming anniversaries and other dates that should-never-
be-not-even-once forgotten, women and men can have pretty good
relationships.

They're not afraid to get their hands dirty. While most women squeal
when being splattered with mud, men like rolling in it. They don't
worry about ruining their manicure or getting dabbed with spaghetti
sauce on their shirt. They're more relaxed, less conscious.That makes
them more fun.

They don't spend too much time going on bathroom breaks.

They don't constantly complain that they're getting fat.

They think like guys. How else will you be able to dissect the head
of that guy you've been drooling for without your male best friend's
analysis of the situation? How will you snag Mr. Perfect without his
guidance? Your male best friend knows what and how guys think. He is
one.

They give great advice. While women tend to be more flowery with
words, men tell it as it is (unless of course, they are in the middle
of courtship or are trying to sweet talk girls into something). They
jolt you back to reality.

You feel protected. Now I do not mean that women are weak, weak
creatures. I am a feminist myself. But it's nice to know that if
someone starts beating you up, your male best friend will be there to
help you cream them.

They act like b ig brothers. They warn you about no-good idiots who
are after you. But of course, they're actually all big babies, which
brings us to the next reason: You can mother them. Let's face it.
Men - whether they're 16 or 60 - are kids. It's a given fact.

They don't fall in love with guys. How many friendships have been
ruined because of pals going after the same guy? Countless. This will
never happen between you and your male best friend to each his own.

They're not afraid of calories. For most girls, pigging out is
unheard of. Guys live for buffets and enjoy food more. That makes
them great companions for eating out.

They don't like boybands. (Most of them, anyway.)(HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!)

They're sweet.

They don't shriek or scream.

You can be yourself. Forget about crossing your legs and dabbing at
your little mouth with a napkin. You can relax and chill and do
whatever you want. You can be a guy with them.

They don't get PMS (pre-menstrual syndrome) ever.

They don't talk about getting married at least, not to you.

They're not too clingy.

They won't get mad when your phone is busy. Then again, in this day
and age when almost everyone has call-waiting, who does?

They share your love for computers and passion for the Internet.

You can talk about the NBA and not just about how cute the
players are.

They don't easily freak out. They can handle gory and morbid
stuff. They don't get terrified.

Their parents are not strict with them. Unlike most girls, they
don't have curfews and can do what they want when they want to.
That means more time for you to hang out.

But, of course, like everything else in this world, having boy
buds also has its downside. Here are a few: Their girlfriends get
jealous of you. Admit it, sometimes us girls can be pretty
unreasonable. Some females would not be 100% comfortable with the
ide a that you are hanging out with her guy a lot.

They forget you're a girl. They have been calling you "dude" for
such a long time that they have forgotten your gender. This is
why you hear your guy friend say, "Whoa!" when he sees you all
dressed and made up. This is why they think its okay to salivate
over other girls and comment on their bodies when you're around.

This is the reason they tell disgusting jokes and expect you to laugh
with them. Don't expect them to open doors for you and yes, don't
expect them to carry your things. And unless you start wearing skirts
to show off your legs, it will probably take a bump on their heads to
remember you're a girl. (annie? hehehe)

They can be pretty obnoxious. They can rattle off endless curse words
for minutes. They can tell sexist jokes and can be pretty sarcastic
at times. But once you sharpen your tongue and prepare your own
vocabulary of insults, you may just beat them at their o wn game.

Sometimes, they can take you for granted. You have been with them so
long that they expect you to hang around forever. If they blow off
your plans because they suddenly got a date with some hot chick, they
expect you to grin and bear it. If they ask you to befriend this girl
they have got the hots for so they can get on her good side, they
expect you to do it for them, even if you hate her guts. Lets face
it. Most men really need a dose of sensitivity.

You may end up as a girlfriend substitute. This happens a lot,
especially with males who are afraid of commitment. You end up going
to his prom or to his all-important office function as his date. He
introduces you to his parents just to stop them from asking about his
almost non-existent dating status. He finds security in your
friendship and seeks comfort in your companionship. You become his
ultimate excuse for not going out with other women.

You have to endure their burping contests. And when you tell them to
say, "Excuse me," you get chided for being too prude. They may scare
away boys that you like. Having other boys around you all the time
may cause a hottie to think twice about asking you out especially if
he's the type that scares easily. One, he may think that any of the
guys are more than just a friend. Two, even if they are just your
friends, he probably knows that if he screws up and hurts you, he's
going to be in trouble. Then again, why should this bother you? If
the potential boyfriend cannot even stand up and face your friends,
how can you expect him to be strong when it is needed?

Your boyfriend can get jealous of them. In the same way that their
girls do not appreciate your presence, your guy might not like the
idea of you hanging out with your close male buds. The male ego is a
very, very sensitive thing, more so if the owner dotes on it. As bad
as this sounds, sometimes, it boils down to a difficult choice by our
boyfriend or your boy-friends?

They can dump you when their girlfriends get too jealous. Since you
are expected to always be the perfect and understanding friend, they
don think you're going to mind if they stop hanging out with
you. "She doesn't understand why we have to go out and watch movies
when I can do it with her." But you've got to understand the guy.
He's probably pretty sick of hearing her whine, "Why is she texting
you again? Doesn't she have any other friends?" and "What! You're
going out again? But you just went out with her last week!" And just
in case that particular relationships ends, they expect to be able to
pick up from where they left and resume the friendship like nothing
happened. Yes, friends make sacrifices, even hard ones.

They can fall in love with you. If I get a peso for every single time
this has happened in history, I can probably buy that Ford F150 now.
Unl ess you feel the same way about your guy friend and you want the
friendship to become more than just that, the situation may not be
pretty. Either you forget about it and laugh about it when you get
older or your friendship goes ka-put. Definitely not a good way to
end things.

And lastly, there's always that bit of possibility... You might end
up falling in love with them. =)(??????)

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got this from my email. My friend emailed this couple of years ago and I read it. It is so true... I just think that every girl who is always thought as "one of the boys" can relate to this and the other girls as well who are basically just the "BEST FRIEND" of a guy. read it!