They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis."
It is when you
stop going along with the crowd and
start realizing
that there are many things about
yourself that you
didn't know and may not like.
You start feeling insecure and wonder
where you will
be in a year or two, but then get
scared because you
barely know where you are now. You
start realizing
that people are selfish and that,
maybe, those
friends that you thought you were so
close to aren't
exactly the greatest people you have
ever met, and the
people you have lost touch with are
some of the most
important ones.
What you don't recognize is that they
are realizing
that too, and aren't really cold,
catty, mean or
insincere, but that they are as
confused as you. You
look at your job... and it is not even
close to what
you thought you would be doing, or
maybe you are
looking for a job and realizing that
you are going to
have to start at the bottom and that
scares you.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You
see what
others are doing and find yourself
judging more than
usual because suddenly you realize that
you have
certain boundaries in your life and are
constantly
adding things to your list of what is
acceptable and
what isn't. One minute, you are
insecure and then the
next, secure. You laugh and cry with
the greatest
force of your life. You feel alone and
scared and
confused.
Suddenly, change is the enemy and you
try and cling on
to the past with dear life, but soon
realize that the
past is drifting further and further
away, and there
is nothing to do but stay where you are
or move
forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder
how someone you
loved could do such damage to you. Or
you lie in bed
and wonder why you can't meet anyone
decent enough
that you want to get to know better. Or
maybe you love
someone but love someone else too and
cannot figure
out why you are doing this because you
know that you
aren't a bad person.
One night stands and random hook ups
start to look
cheap. Getting wasted and acting like
an idiot starts
to look pathetic. You go through the
same emotions and
questions over and over, and talk with
your friends
about the same topics because you
cannot seem to make
a decision.
You worry about loans, money, the
future and making a
life for yourself... and while winning
the race would
be great, right now you'd just like to
be a contender!
What you may not realize is that
everyone reading this
relates to it. We are in our best of
times and our
worst of times, trying as hard as we
can to figure
this whole thing out.
Monday, January 14, 2008
Sunday, January 6, 2008
New year's resolution
In my journey to independence, last year made a BIG change in my life. I learned a lot of things. I learned to live on my own. I learned to save money and earn it. I learned to depend on myself and how to live life with other people who you barely know. I learned to cope up with the REALITIES of the world. Is it better to know the REAL world from the fancy little world you have for yourself?? The little world where you only have the power to do whatever you want. Ive been really thinking about things I have in my life right now. Its funny because now that I am away from my family I realize that (this is really true) you only realize your love and care for people when they are gone or away from you. You appreciate every little talks you would have and every little moment you could spend with them just to show them how you feel. Why am I saying this when my topic is New year's resolution?? Well, its part of my resolution. I will not waste time and I will show my love for the important people in my life. I will be a much better person spiritually, mentally, emotionally, etc etc. I will be organize with my work and everything else and be more patient. Make better or even the best decisions I could make in my life.
And I really am going to try to be a much BETTER PERSON I CAN BE. I know that resolutions are hard to do but what will you lose in doing it?? Nothing right?? So I am not promising rather I am going to try and do it. Its a process you will learn to do and its a part of life. Well, changing is a part of life. When there is change its permanent right?? Oh and one more thing I will live my single life full of love, hope, fun, happiness and eveything ahahahhaa... Enjoy life while you still have the time to do so and enjoy it with people who loves you and you love. I did make sense right?? hehehe.. well, just want to right about my new year's resolution and that is TO CHANGE FOR THE BETTER!!
And I really am going to try to be a much BETTER PERSON I CAN BE. I know that resolutions are hard to do but what will you lose in doing it?? Nothing right?? So I am not promising rather I am going to try and do it. Its a process you will learn to do and its a part of life. Well, changing is a part of life. When there is change its permanent right?? Oh and one more thing I will live my single life full of love, hope, fun, happiness and eveything ahahahhaa... Enjoy life while you still have the time to do so and enjoy it with people who loves you and you love. I did make sense right?? hehehe.. well, just want to right about my new year's resolution and that is TO CHANGE FOR THE BETTER!!
Thursday, January 3, 2008
When boys become girls' bestfriends
When boys become girls' bestfriends
By Pamela Angela Salomon Pastor
Inquirer News Service
CONTRARY to the popular belief that men cannot have purely platonic
relationships with women, today more and more females have found best
friends in their male counterparts.
We all know that women outnumber men. So why can't women stick to
tradition and just giggle with their girlfriends? Let me tell you why:
While most guys are terrible at being good boyfriends, they can
actually be great friends. Without the stress of jealousy,
commitment, looming anniversaries and other dates that should-never-
be-not-even-once forgotten, women and men can have pretty good
relationships.
They're not afraid to get their hands dirty. While most women squeal
when being splattered with mud, men like rolling in it. They don't
worry about ruining their manicure or getting dabbed with spaghetti
sauce on their shirt. They're more relaxed, less conscious.That makes
them more fun.
They don't spend too much time going on bathroom breaks.
They don't constantly complain that they're getting fat.
They think like guys. How else will you be able to dissect the head
of that guy you've been drooling for without your male best friend's
analysis of the situation? How will you snag Mr. Perfect without his
guidance? Your male best friend knows what and how guys think. He is
one.
They give great advice. While women tend to be more flowery with
words, men tell it as it is (unless of course, they are in the middle
of courtship or are trying to sweet talk girls into something). They
jolt you back to reality.
You feel protected. Now I do not mean that women are weak, weak
creatures. I am a feminist myself. But it's nice to know that if
someone starts beating you up, your male best friend will be there to
help you cream them.
They act like b ig brothers. They warn you about no-good idiots who
are after you. But of course, they're actually all big babies, which
brings us to the next reason: You can mother them. Let's face it.
Men - whether they're 16 or 60 - are kids. It's a given fact.
They don't fall in love with guys. How many friendships have been
ruined because of pals going after the same guy? Countless. This will
never happen between you and your male best friend to each his own.
They're not afraid of calories. For most girls, pigging out is
unheard of. Guys live for buffets and enjoy food more. That makes
them great companions for eating out.
They don't like boybands. (Most of them, anyway.)(HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!)
They're sweet.
They don't shriek or scream.
You can be yourself. Forget about crossing your legs and dabbing at
your little mouth with a napkin. You can relax and chill and do
whatever you want. You can be a guy with them.
They don't get PMS (pre-menstrual syndrome) ever.
They don't talk about getting married at least, not to you.
They're not too clingy.
They won't get mad when your phone is busy. Then again, in this day
and age when almost everyone has call-waiting, who does?
They share your love for computers and passion for the Internet.
You can talk about the NBA and not just about how cute the
players are.
They don't easily freak out. They can handle gory and morbid
stuff. They don't get terrified.
Their parents are not strict with them. Unlike most girls, they
don't have curfews and can do what they want when they want to.
That means more time for you to hang out.
But, of course, like everything else in this world, having boy
buds also has its downside. Here are a few: Their girlfriends get
jealous of you. Admit it, sometimes us girls can be pretty
unreasonable. Some females would not be 100% comfortable with the
ide a that you are hanging out with her guy a lot.
They forget you're a girl. They have been calling you "dude" for
such a long time that they have forgotten your gender. This is
why you hear your guy friend say, "Whoa!" when he sees you all
dressed and made up. This is why they think its okay to salivate
over other girls and comment on their bodies when you're around.
This is the reason they tell disgusting jokes and expect you to laugh
with them. Don't expect them to open doors for you and yes, don't
expect them to carry your things. And unless you start wearing skirts
to show off your legs, it will probably take a bump on their heads to
remember you're a girl. (annie? hehehe)
They can be pretty obnoxious. They can rattle off endless curse words
for minutes. They can tell sexist jokes and can be pretty sarcastic
at times. But once you sharpen your tongue and prepare your own
vocabulary of insults, you may just beat them at their o wn game.
Sometimes, they can take you for granted. You have been with them so
long that they expect you to hang around forever. If they blow off
your plans because they suddenly got a date with some hot chick, they
expect you to grin and bear it. If they ask you to befriend this girl
they have got the hots for so they can get on her good side, they
expect you to do it for them, even if you hate her guts. Lets face
it. Most men really need a dose of sensitivity.
You may end up as a girlfriend substitute. This happens a lot,
especially with males who are afraid of commitment. You end up going
to his prom or to his all-important office function as his date. He
introduces you to his parents just to stop them from asking about his
almost non-existent dating status. He finds security in your
friendship and seeks comfort in your companionship. You become his
ultimate excuse for not going out with other women.
You have to endure their burping contests. And when you tell them to
say, "Excuse me," you get chided for being too prude. They may scare
away boys that you like. Having other boys around you all the time
may cause a hottie to think twice about asking you out especially if
he's the type that scares easily. One, he may think that any of the
guys are more than just a friend. Two, even if they are just your
friends, he probably knows that if he screws up and hurts you, he's
going to be in trouble. Then again, why should this bother you? If
the potential boyfriend cannot even stand up and face your friends,
how can you expect him to be strong when it is needed?
Your boyfriend can get jealous of them. In the same way that their
girls do not appreciate your presence, your guy might not like the
idea of you hanging out with your close male buds. The male ego is a
very, very sensitive thing, more so if the owner dotes on it. As bad
as this sounds, sometimes, it boils down to a difficult choice by our
boyfriend or your boy-friends?
They can dump you when their girlfriends get too jealous. Since you
are expected to always be the perfect and understanding friend, they
don think you're going to mind if they stop hanging out with
you. "She doesn't understand why we have to go out and watch movies
when I can do it with her." But you've got to understand the guy.
He's probably pretty sick of hearing her whine, "Why is she texting
you again? Doesn't she have any other friends?" and "What! You're
going out again? But you just went out with her last week!" And just
in case that particular relationships ends, they expect to be able to
pick up from where they left and resume the friendship like nothing
happened. Yes, friends make sacrifices, even hard ones.
They can fall in love with you. If I get a peso for every single time
this has happened in history, I can probably buy that Ford F150 now.
Unl ess you feel the same way about your guy friend and you want the
friendship to become more than just that, the situation may not be
pretty. Either you forget about it and laugh about it when you get
older or your friendship goes ka-put. Definitely not a good way to
end things.
And lastly, there's always that bit of possibility... You might end
up falling in love with them. =)(??????)
==============================================================
got this from my email. My friend emailed this couple of years ago and I read it. It is so true... I just think that every girl who is always thought as "one of the boys" can relate to this and the other girls as well who are basically just the "BEST FRIEND" of a guy. read it!
By Pamela Angela Salomon Pastor
Inquirer News Service
CONTRARY to the popular belief that men cannot have purely platonic
relationships with women, today more and more females have found best
friends in their male counterparts.
We all know that women outnumber men. So why can't women stick to
tradition and just giggle with their girlfriends? Let me tell you why:
While most guys are terrible at being good boyfriends, they can
actually be great friends. Without the stress of jealousy,
commitment, looming anniversaries and other dates that should-never-
be-not-even-once forgotten, women and men can have pretty good
relationships.
They're not afraid to get their hands dirty. While most women squeal
when being splattered with mud, men like rolling in it. They don't
worry about ruining their manicure or getting dabbed with spaghetti
sauce on their shirt. They're more relaxed, less conscious.That makes
them more fun.
They don't spend too much time going on bathroom breaks.
They don't constantly complain that they're getting fat.
They think like guys. How else will you be able to dissect the head
of that guy you've been drooling for without your male best friend's
analysis of the situation? How will you snag Mr. Perfect without his
guidance? Your male best friend knows what and how guys think. He is
one.
They give great advice. While women tend to be more flowery with
words, men tell it as it is (unless of course, they are in the middle
of courtship or are trying to sweet talk girls into something). They
jolt you back to reality.
You feel protected. Now I do not mean that women are weak, weak
creatures. I am a feminist myself. But it's nice to know that if
someone starts beating you up, your male best friend will be there to
help you cream them.
They act like b ig brothers. They warn you about no-good idiots who
are after you. But of course, they're actually all big babies, which
brings us to the next reason: You can mother them. Let's face it.
Men - whether they're 16 or 60 - are kids. It's a given fact.
They don't fall in love with guys. How many friendships have been
ruined because of pals going after the same guy? Countless. This will
never happen between you and your male best friend to each his own.
They're not afraid of calories. For most girls, pigging out is
unheard of. Guys live for buffets and enjoy food more. That makes
them great companions for eating out.
They don't like boybands. (Most of them, anyway.)(HAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!)
They're sweet.
They don't shriek or scream.
You can be yourself. Forget about crossing your legs and dabbing at
your little mouth with a napkin. You can relax and chill and do
whatever you want. You can be a guy with them.
They don't get PMS (pre-menstrual syndrome) ever.
They don't talk about getting married at least, not to you.
They're not too clingy.
They won't get mad when your phone is busy. Then again, in this day
and age when almost everyone has call-waiting, who does?
They share your love for computers and passion for the Internet.
You can talk about the NBA and not just about how cute the
players are.
They don't easily freak out. They can handle gory and morbid
stuff. They don't get terrified.
Their parents are not strict with them. Unlike most girls, they
don't have curfews and can do what they want when they want to.
That means more time for you to hang out.
But, of course, like everything else in this world, having boy
buds also has its downside. Here are a few: Their girlfriends get
jealous of you. Admit it, sometimes us girls can be pretty
unreasonable. Some females would not be 100% comfortable with the
ide a that you are hanging out with her guy a lot.
They forget you're a girl. They have been calling you "dude" for
such a long time that they have forgotten your gender. This is
why you hear your guy friend say, "Whoa!" when he sees you all
dressed and made up. This is why they think its okay to salivate
over other girls and comment on their bodies when you're around.
This is the reason they tell disgusting jokes and expect you to laugh
with them. Don't expect them to open doors for you and yes, don't
expect them to carry your things. And unless you start wearing skirts
to show off your legs, it will probably take a bump on their heads to
remember you're a girl. (annie? hehehe)
They can be pretty obnoxious. They can rattle off endless curse words
for minutes. They can tell sexist jokes and can be pretty sarcastic
at times. But once you sharpen your tongue and prepare your own
vocabulary of insults, you may just beat them at their o wn game.
Sometimes, they can take you for granted. You have been with them so
long that they expect you to hang around forever. If they blow off
your plans because they suddenly got a date with some hot chick, they
expect you to grin and bear it. If they ask you to befriend this girl
they have got the hots for so they can get on her good side, they
expect you to do it for them, even if you hate her guts. Lets face
it. Most men really need a dose of sensitivity.
You may end up as a girlfriend substitute. This happens a lot,
especially with males who are afraid of commitment. You end up going
to his prom or to his all-important office function as his date. He
introduces you to his parents just to stop them from asking about his
almost non-existent dating status. He finds security in your
friendship and seeks comfort in your companionship. You become his
ultimate excuse for not going out with other women.
You have to endure their burping contests. And when you tell them to
say, "Excuse me," you get chided for being too prude. They may scare
away boys that you like. Having other boys around you all the time
may cause a hottie to think twice about asking you out especially if
he's the type that scares easily. One, he may think that any of the
guys are more than just a friend. Two, even if they are just your
friends, he probably knows that if he screws up and hurts you, he's
going to be in trouble. Then again, why should this bother you? If
the potential boyfriend cannot even stand up and face your friends,
how can you expect him to be strong when it is needed?
Your boyfriend can get jealous of them. In the same way that their
girls do not appreciate your presence, your guy might not like the
idea of you hanging out with your close male buds. The male ego is a
very, very sensitive thing, more so if the owner dotes on it. As bad
as this sounds, sometimes, it boils down to a difficult choice by our
boyfriend or your boy-friends?
They can dump you when their girlfriends get too jealous. Since you
are expected to always be the perfect and understanding friend, they
don think you're going to mind if they stop hanging out with
you. "She doesn't understand why we have to go out and watch movies
when I can do it with her." But you've got to understand the guy.
He's probably pretty sick of hearing her whine, "Why is she texting
you again? Doesn't she have any other friends?" and "What! You're
going out again? But you just went out with her last week!" And just
in case that particular relationships ends, they expect to be able to
pick up from where they left and resume the friendship like nothing
happened. Yes, friends make sacrifices, even hard ones.
They can fall in love with you. If I get a peso for every single time
this has happened in history, I can probably buy that Ford F150 now.
Unl ess you feel the same way about your guy friend and you want the
friendship to become more than just that, the situation may not be
pretty. Either you forget about it and laugh about it when you get
older or your friendship goes ka-put. Definitely not a good way to
end things.
And lastly, there's always that bit of possibility... You might end
up falling in love with them. =)(??????)
==============================================================
got this from my email. My friend emailed this couple of years ago and I read it. It is so true... I just think that every girl who is always thought as "one of the boys" can relate to this and the other girls as well who are basically just the "BEST FRIEND" of a guy. read it!
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
Too many sad sappy songs...
I've been inclined in listening to some sad and sappy songs. Love songs you might say. Songs that more of like for broken hearted people. I kinda feel like listening to it. I feel like, in my case, I could really relate to it. Especially to the songs: If I fall by Aqualung and Colors by Amos Lee. Sad but really hits me hard. The more days that pass I feel like the more pain I'm gaining here in my heart. I've been meaning to tell the guy I've fallen in love with that I love him but it seems that no matter how brave I am in other things I'm such a coward when it comes to love. How can you tell someone you like/love them without losing them? Funny question right? There's always two answers right? Well, How will you tell that person?? What are your consequences?? Of course the two answers are him/her also in love with you or NOT. Having the idea of it makes me really sick. Having thoughts of losing that one person whom you learn to laugh with, goof around and love. Reality bites. You win some you lose some. If you try to analyze it, you would conclude two things: he/she will start to ignore you and take you for granted or will reciprocate the same thing. It should be a two way street but that's not what the world (most of the time) shows. Most of the time its only one way. You love the person and that person love another and the other loves another one and the list goes on and on. But really you don't have to analyze things coz I think you just have to do what you think is right. Tell that person you love them and just be ready for the answer! Whether its a good or bad news.. doesn't matter! Keep on loving them even if they don't reciprocate. I may sound a bit out of this world right now and I know I don't really make any sense.. Well it is because of my irritating headache and a tiring day from work.. Oh wait! I'm just making excuses.. The truth is I'm confused and scared coz... I'm in love.. with him.. =)
Monday, October 8, 2007
confusion
Confusion is starting to kill me
Slowly its breaking me
Feeling unhappy or just complaining
I'm broken
crushed into pieces
NO one could save me
I can only redeem myself
Misery or Happiness
Am I really happy?
Or just pretending?
Chances makes you decide
Fate makes you think
Hope makes you wait
Love makes you trust
Until the time I can really say I'm happy..
I just need to have a little faith and wait..
Patience is a virtue..
Slowly its breaking me
Feeling unhappy or just complaining
I'm broken
crushed into pieces
NO one could save me
I can only redeem myself
Misery or Happiness
Am I really happy?
Or just pretending?
Chances makes you decide
Fate makes you think
Hope makes you wait
Love makes you trust
Until the time I can really say I'm happy..
I just need to have a little faith and wait..
Patience is a virtue..
Friday, September 14, 2007
Dreams, reachable or not?
When you were a kid, you dream of things that you would want to have in your life in the future. You dream of being someone. You dream of being successful. You dream of having a family, etc. etc. So what was my dream when I was a kid? I dream of becoming someone who would cure and help people, a doctor. I dream of having a family and having kids. So why did I wrote this blog?? Hmmm, one reason is that I'm thinking if dreams can be reach or they are just left to be just a dream. I am already finished with my school and would want to be a medical technologist or a clinical laboratory scientist. How am I able to achieve it? Do I have to give my dreams for something that is visible, tangible and something that I have now?? A job that somehow keeps me going. A job that I have now because it would help me achieve my other goals or dreams. DO I HAVE TO GIVE UP MY DREAMS FOR THIS?? For some people, they had given up for they think they can't achieve their dreams. I always believe that somehow you should not give up but rather find ways to achieve your dreams. My dad keeps on telling me (when he was still alive) that I should be determine in achieving what I want in life. You can never say that "I can't achieve it" and that "its not for me" but rather try to figure out ways in achieving it. You can at least say that you tried achieving it and pursuing it than doing nothing at all. Sometimes there are dreams that we have to set aside first to be able to achieve it for we have to do something before pursuing it. Maybe I'm just mumbling about my dreams but I kept thinking about it because of the things happening in my life right now. Am I going to achieve or pursue my dreams? How am I going to do that? Who would help me it pursuing it? Now, are you thinking the same thing? What do you think? Go figure!
Tuesday, September 11, 2007
A CHAT WITH GOD (LESSONS IN LIFE)
God: Hello. Did you call Me?
ME: Called you? No... Who is this?
God: This is GOD. I heard your prayers. So I thought, I will chat.
ME: I do pray. Just makes me feel good. I am actually busy now. I am in the midst of something.
God: What are you busy at? Ants are busy, too.
ME: Don't know. But I can't find free time. Life has become hectic. It's rush hour all the time.
God: Sure. Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you results. Activity consumes time. Productivity frees it.
ME: I understand. But I still can't figure it out. By the way, I was not expecting You to buzz me on instant messaging chat.
God: Well, I wanted to resolve your fight for time, by giving you some clarity. In this Net era, I wanted to reach you through the medium you are comfortable with.
ME: Tell me, why has life become complicated now?
God: Stop analyzing life. Just live it. Analysis is what makes it complicated.
ME: Why are we then constantly unhappy?
God: Your today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday. You are worrying because you are analyzing. Worrying has become your habit. That's why you are not happy.
ME: But how can we not worry when there is so much uncertainty?
God: Uncertainty is inevitable, but worrying is optional.
ME: But then, there is so much pain due to uncertainty...
God: Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.
ME: If suffering is optional, why do good people always suffer?
God: Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don't suffer. With that experience their life becomes better not bitter.
ME: YOu mean to say such experience is useful?
God: Yes. In every term, experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.
ME: But still, why should we go through such tests? Why can't we be free from problems?
God: Problems are Purposeful Roadblocks Offering Beneficial Lessons to Enhance Mental Strength. Inner Strength comes from the struggle and endurance, not when you are free from problems.
ME: Frankly, in the midst of so many problems, we don't know where we are heading.
God: If you look outside, you will know where you ar heading. Looking outside, you dream. Looking inside, you awaken. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides insight.
ME: Sometimes not succeeding fast seems to hurt more than moving in the right direction. What should I do?
God: Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you. Knowing the road ahead is more satisfying than knowing you rode ahead. You work with the compass. Let others work with the clock.
ME: In tough times, how do you stay motivated?
God: Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessings, not what you are missing.
ME: What surprises you about people?
God: When they suffer they ask, "Why me?" When they prosper, they never ask, "Why me?" Everyone wishes to have truth on their side, but few want to be on the side of the truth.
ME: Sometimes I ask, who am I, why am I here? I can't get the answer.
God: Seek not to find who you are, but to determine who you want to be. Stop looking for a purpose as to why you are here. Create it. Life is not a process of discovery, but a process of creation.
ME: How can I get the best of life?
God: Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.
ME: One last questions. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.
God: There are no unanswered prayers. At times the answer is NO.
ME: Thank you for this wonderful chat. I am so happy to start the New Day with a new sense of inspiration.
God: Well. Keep the faith and drop the fear. Don't believe your doubts and doubt your beliefs. Life is mystery to solve, not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live."
ME: Called you? No... Who is this?
God: This is GOD. I heard your prayers. So I thought, I will chat.
ME: I do pray. Just makes me feel good. I am actually busy now. I am in the midst of something.
God: What are you busy at? Ants are busy, too.
ME: Don't know. But I can't find free time. Life has become hectic. It's rush hour all the time.
God: Sure. Activity gets you busy. But productivity gets you results. Activity consumes time. Productivity frees it.
ME: I understand. But I still can't figure it out. By the way, I was not expecting You to buzz me on instant messaging chat.
God: Well, I wanted to resolve your fight for time, by giving you some clarity. In this Net era, I wanted to reach you through the medium you are comfortable with.
ME: Tell me, why has life become complicated now?
God: Stop analyzing life. Just live it. Analysis is what makes it complicated.
ME: Why are we then constantly unhappy?
God: Your today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday. You are worrying because you are analyzing. Worrying has become your habit. That's why you are not happy.
ME: But how can we not worry when there is so much uncertainty?
God: Uncertainty is inevitable, but worrying is optional.
ME: But then, there is so much pain due to uncertainty...
God: Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional.
ME: If suffering is optional, why do good people always suffer?
God: Diamond cannot be polished without friction. Gold cannot be purified without fire. Good people go through trials, but don't suffer. With that experience their life becomes better not bitter.
ME: YOu mean to say such experience is useful?
God: Yes. In every term, experience is a hard teacher. She gives the test first and the lessons afterwards.
ME: But still, why should we go through such tests? Why can't we be free from problems?
God: Problems are Purposeful Roadblocks Offering Beneficial Lessons to Enhance Mental Strength. Inner Strength comes from the struggle and endurance, not when you are free from problems.
ME: Frankly, in the midst of so many problems, we don't know where we are heading.
God: If you look outside, you will know where you ar heading. Looking outside, you dream. Looking inside, you awaken. Eyes provide sight. Heart provides insight.
ME: Sometimes not succeeding fast seems to hurt more than moving in the right direction. What should I do?
God: Success is a measure as decided by others. Satisfaction is a measure as decided by you. Knowing the road ahead is more satisfying than knowing you rode ahead. You work with the compass. Let others work with the clock.
ME: In tough times, how do you stay motivated?
God: Always look at how far you have come rather than how far you have to go. Always count your blessings, not what you are missing.
ME: What surprises you about people?
God: When they suffer they ask, "Why me?" When they prosper, they never ask, "Why me?" Everyone wishes to have truth on their side, but few want to be on the side of the truth.
ME: Sometimes I ask, who am I, why am I here? I can't get the answer.
God: Seek not to find who you are, but to determine who you want to be. Stop looking for a purpose as to why you are here. Create it. Life is not a process of discovery, but a process of creation.
ME: How can I get the best of life?
God: Face your past without regret. Handle your present with confidence. Prepare for the future without fear.
ME: One last questions. Sometimes I feel my prayers are not answered.
God: There are no unanswered prayers. At times the answer is NO.
ME: Thank you for this wonderful chat. I am so happy to start the New Day with a new sense of inspiration.
God: Well. Keep the faith and drop the fear. Don't believe your doubts and doubt your beliefs. Life is mystery to solve, not a problem to resolve. Trust me. Life is wonderful if you know how to live."
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